How Do I Get My Wife Back? We Have Kids – 5 Tips For What To Do Next

Having a happy marriage is something that many men who have kids take for granted – until the marriage is over. At that point, one’s perspective has a way of changing. Suddenly, so many of those things that the husband took for granted become much more clear in his mind. He realizes at that point the full impact of what the divorce or separation means to him.
Of course, the reasons for a couple splitting up are usually complex and cannot be reduced to a single cause. Usually in the mix for most troubled marriages include one spouse not making enough time for the family, major disagreements about how to live day-to-day, money troubles and/or infidelity on the part of one of the spouses.
A marriage breakup becomes all the more difficult, of course, when there are children involved. Having one or more children between the two of you can make the relationship even more worth saving – and yet many couples are just not able to do so.
If you are wondering, “How do I get my wife back? We have kids,” here are 5 tips for what to do next:
1. Check your negative emotions at the door:
For starters, in order to deal with this situation appropriately you are going to have to check your emotions at the door. As emotional as you likely feel about the entire situation, you will not be able to make any significant progress in dealing with the possibility of getting back together with your wife unless you can approach the situation with a cool head.
2. Find out what she is up to now:
Your first task will be to coolly and calmly do what it takes to determine what your ex-wife’s (or separated wife’s) life is like now. Leverage your network of friends and associates to find out. Where does she work? What are her habits like? Is she seeing anybody new? Short of spying on her directly, you may not be able to answer all of the questions. But, with some effort you should be able to get a pretty good handle on the situation.
3. Arrange a time to meet or talk on the phone with her:
Now that you have a lay of the land when it comes to your ex’s life and habits, it is time to meet with her. If you do not live close by, a phone call will do. Let her know that you are just wanting to check in to see how she is doing.
4. Ask her what you can do to support her needs, whether or not you are together:
When you meet or talk with your ex-wife, be sure to approach the conversation from an attitude of making sure that everything is okay with her. Do not approach it from the angle of what your needs are. Be there to be helpful and supportive – and make sure it is all genuine.
5. Put together a plan for winning her back:
Come away from the meeting with your wife with a good sense of where she is right now and what she wants. If you sense there is still room in her life for you, approach the situation with tact as you put together a plan for winning her back.
Whether you are doing it for yourself, your kids, or both, do what it takes to give things with your wife another shot.

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